Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues

What is it? Why would you go to it? How does it help?

We all had struggled with or wanted to maintain quality in our different relationships, but, sometimes, that's not as easy as it sounds. Working on yourself helps relationships…I know it sounds like one more fucking thing when you have enough on your plate. Think long-term here, babes.

Who Is Relationship Therapy For?

With me…it’s individual therapy for women. Not couples, not family or groups. It’s a place for my clients to learn about themselves and how to navigate a host of relationships types like:

What Clients Tell Me About Their Relationships

They find themselves in the same cycle of unhealthy/boring/not-great relationships
They feel like they’re constantly giving more (emotions, energy, time) than they’re receiving
They’re struggling to understand why their relationships aren’t what they want them to ideally be
They’re wanting to stay on top of things in their current relationships to keep them healthy and growing
They want to stick up for themselves, communicate differently, or find who they really are
They are stressed, anxious, and exhausted because they're carry a mental load no one seems to understand
They feel alone in their relationships

If you've nodded along to any of these, you’re in good company.

A lot of people struggle with relationship issues, whether they’re with family, friends, romantic partners, coworkers, or clients.

This can lead to stress, anxiety, confusion, frustration, self-doubt, and a host of other emotions.

What is Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues?

Individual therapy for relationship issues is therapy that focuses on helping you understand and improve your relationships. Unlike couples, family, group therapy, which involves other people, individual therapy allows you to explore your OWN thoughts, feelings, and behaviors WITHOUT the influence of others in your relationship dynamics.

Understanding Individual Therapy Benefits

While therapy with others (couples, family, group) often focuses on resolving immediate relationship problems, individual therapy delves deeper into your personal patterns, beliefs, and behaviors that may be contributing to difficulties or keeping you from epic relationships.

When we work on ourselves, we can figure out who we are APART from others. While it’s wonderful to have people in our lives, and we fucking need others, it is important to know who we are with and without outside influence.

Working on knowing who we are also builds a solid foundation. Piecing together who we are based on other’s opinions of us or other’s ideas creates a personal foundation made of twigs it’s going to break and have difficulty weathering hard life experiences.

Individual Therapy Benefits for Relationships:

1. Self-Awareness and Clarity:

Identifying Patterns: these are the things you tend to do consistently. Are you clingy, do you try harder than they do, do you shut down, do you worry they’ll leave you or you made someone mad, do you get angry? We find out the things that don’t feel good in how you interact with others and find a way to bring in patterns that work for you.
Understanding Your Needs: You gain understanding of what you want. If you have a bad day, what do you need from those around you? If you’re feeling emotional how can someone help? How do you ask for help? What were you taught about your needs?
Uncovering Your Values: By exploring your values you learn what connects and disconnects you from others. Ex: If your idea of a healthy relationship is quality communication but your partner's idea of a healthy relationship is a lot of sex do your values align? We find what you will/won’t stand for and what you can compromise on, so you don’t have to question what you want need out of your relationships.

2. Understanding:

3. Healing The Past (ick, I know):

4. Skill Building:

5. Enhancing Self-Esteem and Confidence:

6. Creating Healthy Relationships:

The Transformation Process

Through individual therapy, you can experience a kickass transformation in your relationships. Here's what you can expect:

Gaining Clarity: You'll gain a clearer understanding of your needs, desires, and boundaries.
Understanding Your Worth: You'll learn your value and your contributions to relationships..and you'll love it about yourself.
Building Healthy Connections: You'll attract and cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Experiencing Balanced, Equal Relationships: You'll learn to balance your needs with the needs of your partner.
Communicating Needs & Boundaries Easily: You'll develop effective communication skills to express yourself clearly and assertively without feeling bad or judged for it.
Trusting Yourself & Others: You'll learn to trust your own judgment and intuition, as well as the people in your life.
Feeling Balanced, Calm, and Clear-Headed: You'll experience a greater sense of peace, joy, and fulfillment in your relationships.

Sometimes we think we have great relationships or are fine maintaining the ones we have. BUT if there's something telling you your relationships seem off, they don't feel right, or you want more from them consider seeking individual therapy. It's an investment in yourself that will pay dividends in all areas of your life.

About the author: Jessica Miller is a licensed therapist in the state of California. Her background is in domestic violence, self-esteem, anxiety, trauma, and somatic experiencing. She believes that life is messy and sometimes we need someone to understand that we don't know wtf we're doing.

If this got you curious about your relationships...reach out to schedule a consult HERE